You Make Me Feel like a Teenage Dream

So I know it has been a while since my last blog. Being a mama of 3 keeps my days super busy between school, homework, cooking, dance class, baseball practice, and chasing a toddler....I barely have time to shower!
My husband and I finally had a date night this weekend. We went with some friends to a piano bar called Howl at the Moon. It is a dueling piano bar that plays songs we all love to sing at the top of our lungs in the shower thinking we are the next American Idol (haha)
Four DosXX later and I was on stage singing "Don't Stop Believing" with my girlfriend. It was awesome!!! The crowd loved us too because they were intoxicated as well and thought we sounded pretty damn good.
It was so nice to get out with my husband and be a couple. The next day went grocery shopping by ourselves (Nana kept the kiddos) and had lunch together. We were like giddy teenagers sitting at our table eating our lunch together.
On Sunday we took the older two to a birthday party at a roller rink. My husband and I decided to partake in the fun and rollerblade ourselves. We were holding hands and flirting like it was an 8th grade dance.
Maybe that was all we needed, alone time. I think once you get married and start a family, the two of you forget to make time for one another. It does not always mean that you and your spouse have grown apart, the relationship just needs a little TLC. I love my husband with all my heart, and yes I am proud to say that after 10 years and 3 kids, he makes me feel like a teenage dream....sigh....
Till next time...
xoxo
C

Trying to find that spark....

When two people are newly in love, there is this spark between them that could ignite a fire. Kisses and hugs, staying up late just talking about nothing, and laying in bed on rainy days. Then the couple decides to get married and start a family....
Fast forward 10 years and a couple of kids later, the spark has gone missing. The husband and wife are too busy with work, kids, bills, LIFE.....life takes over and steals that spark.
We can't blame life however, it only happens if the husband and wife allow it. My question is, how do you stop it? Or more importantly in my case, how do you get it back??
I love my husband with all my heart. We met when we were 19 and married at 20. He is my soulmate. But our relationship has turned into one of those sterotypical yuppie couples that barely speak!! What happened to my happpily ever after???
I know I am not the only one who feels this way. There are a lot of couples out there that suffer from the same thing. My question is...How do you get it back?
Till next time,
C

Yearning to find balance....

I was watching SATC last night on E(Sex and the City). It was the episode where Carrie and the girls attend a baby shower. All the moms there were talking about how they miss alone time and what it felt like to be young and hip. Carrie was worried she was preggo during the episode and was thinking to herself if she too could be a cool hip mom and still live in SOHO.
It got me thinking really hard to the point that I was aggravated and argued with my husband about taking up too much space in our bed. After a restless night I decided to go sweat it out at the gym this morning. Zoning out with my dance beats on the stairclimber it occured to me, maybe, just maybe that is what every mom is after....working or non-working....balance.
One of the definitions of balance states:
-mental steadiness or emotional stability; habit of calm behavior, judgment, etc.
The words "mental steadiness" are flashing in my head like a blinking neon sign! Trying to find that "steadiness" seems almost impossible to do when a mom's mind is always running down a to do list in her mind.
As a SAHM, I find myself constantly trying to remember all the things the kids need, or my house needs, bills to pay, what I need at the grocery store, etc that I rarely stop and just really listen to myself.
Motherhood does not mean a woman has to give up her identity, she just has to find that perfect balance. Here is to the year of finding it...till next time...
xoxo C

Introduction

I am a SAHM to three kiddos ages 8, 5, and 1. For those of you that do not know what a SAHM is, let me enlighten you. STAY AT HOME MOM.....within that title the duties are as follows:
1. Take care of kids (of course)
2. Maid
3. Dry Cleaner and laudry service
4. Family Accountant (even though you and your hubby do not always see eye to eye on things)
5. Chef
6. Nurse
7. Personal Driver
8. Plumber
9. Sometimes eletrician(although I personally would not suggest that one)
10. Great story teller

Of course a SAHM does not get paid for all these duties, she gets the joy of being able to be at home with her children everyday.
Sometimes I question my choice of profession and wonder if I am a right fit. But seeing their smiles and hearing their laughs everyday reminds me how truly blessed I really am.
Being a SAHM is not easy, there are days when I just want to cry. I really don't have much of a social life and not many friends. It is all I can do to get a shower in the morning without my toddler trying to climb in with me!
I think sometimes my husband does not realize how hard it can be. Granted, this was my choice. But sometimes I wonder if women of our generation have too many choices and thus makes us feel confused all the time wondering if we have chosen the right ones.
Don't get me wrong, I am so glad to have been there for the first words, and first steps, getting them off to school everyday. I think as a SAHM you tend to put your children and husband first so much that you eventually lose yourself. My husband has been a wonderful support system through the years, but I have still managed to forget what made me tick.
My goal for 2011 is to rediscover that lost hidden treasure that seems impossible to find and I have decided to blog my way through it. Till next time....
xoxo C